Monday, April 24, 2017

Seizure inducing toy

A little boy had a spin-y toy with bright flickering lights on an airplane flight I was on recently. It was flickering in my peripheral visual field. It was almost seizure inducing.  Seriously.  (I am kind of sensitive to lights.)

I get that he's a little kid.  I get that you're trying to keep him quiet on the plane.  However, the flicker was more annoying to me than crying.  I did not say anything to the Mom.  I wouldn't.  I'm just throwing this out there for the universe.

Friday, March 31, 2017

Recording some stuff

ME:  T quit softball this year!!! Shocking! Her Dad and I were sad, but it was her decision. I can tell you more if you want.

Friend:  SHE DID?!?! I'm so surprised! She'lll find something else fast I bet...

Me:  already did... Tumbling... And she went from wanting to be a Computer Scientist to an oncologist for cats.

Friend:  she's got some space for that decision.

Me:  absolutely, but this has been a year o' change. It is so funny to see how *completely* she is giving things up tho... she wants NOTHING to do with either of her previous interests anymore.

A little more context.  Her decision for softball was *before* the season started so we didn't "quit" -- we just didn't sign up. She didn't want to go to CS camp this summer, but wanted to go to roller coaster design camp -- fine with me, I just want to see her doing some STEM.

Saturday, March 04, 2017

Dear Future Self....

I've decided I'm going to archive things here that I'll want to see again in the future ... these things will primarily be related to the 3 little girls... NOW 15, 12 (almost 13) and 11.  Not so little. 

Wednesday, January 25, 2017

His first break...

I am trying to dig my way out of the hole I was thrown into when MWH broke two bones foot...

Did I tell you about that? He broke it on January 3. It's the first bone break for him; well, actually the first 16+ breaks.  He broke two bones MULTIPLE times.  He did super good job on breaking his foot.   He always gives his all.

 It's been 3.5 weeks since the surgery, and he's just starting to be able to be out of bed for more than 15-20 minutes at a time.

He does so much around the house. I have been spending a lot of time keeping up with the work he does in the house. I am tired. He does dishes, trash, laundry*, other cleaning, making girls' lunches (he does the second shift usually while I get ready for the day and he helps me get out of the door in the morning), picking up kids (not really doing this, our nanny has picked up the slack there) bringing in new supplies from the garage, e.g., paper towels).

Yes, I am lucky.  He is awesome. I think we usually do about the same amount of work around the house. I do the first shift of getting girls ready for school, the drop off for both schools, the cooking, planning for the cooking, laundry, organizing for the week, all the scheduling for the girls, afternoon help with the girls, all the purchasing for girls (e.g., clothes, shoes, anything they need for school, friends' birthdays, etc).  I am missing my partner in crime around this place!

(*I should note that the girls do a lot around the house, too.  Thankfully they are also helping pick up some of the work, too.  The more stressed I get, the more they help.)

 I've written about MWH in the past...

Monday, January 02, 2017

Am I back?

For the moment... who knows how long--no promises it will last any longer than today.  This blog is a good place to put things that I want to remember but don't want to put on either of my other 3 blogs... YES, 3! (Home, food, and work...)

Goals for the year

  • Eat more sriracha
  • Take more walks and have more talks
  • Go to the middle school and run around on the track (this one is so far away from what we do now that if we did this one or two times this year I would consider it a win.)
  • Write more for my blog at work
  • Find more yummy recipes
  • Continue eating well, working out a lot (5-6 times a week), tap dancing

Break Highlights

  • Having a great talk with the girls about the work I do
  • Actually getting holiday cards mailed
  • Hanging out and having down time
  • Getting most of my "list" of things to do for work done without too much stress

Thursday, December 29, 2016


Movies we watched over Christmas Break 2016
Finding Dory
Singin' in the Rain (before Debbie Reynolds died)
Secret life of pets
War games (yes the 1980s one)
Miss Peregrine's home for peculiar children
Bill and Ted's Excellent Adventure

Rogue One  (excellent but I remembered how much I hate going to the movies.  We had to sit over an hour before the 2 hour and 13 minute movie... 1/2 hour early for decent seats and then more than 1/2 hour of ads/trailers.)

Potential movies to watch
Major League (recommended by a friend--I haven't seen it.)
Pink Panther Movies

Forrest Gump
Moana (as soon as it's out on Netflix / iTunes) 
Hidden Figures (as soon as it's out on Netflix / iTunes)

Movies we've watched
Big (a little uncomfortablee on the love scenes)
Stand by me
Men in Black (only the 14 year old liked it)
Back to the Future (all of them loved all 3)
Ferris Bueller's Day Off

Princess Bride

Wednesday, December 28, 2016

One of our kitties...

On Halloween, one of our beautiful black kitties was diagnosed with intestinal lymphoma.   We'll call him Tall Handsome Boy or THB for short.  Here's what I shared with a friend in FB.  This blog may be resurrected after all... look, 2 posts in a as many days!  I want to remember some things and I don't want to put them on my other blogs.

THB has intestinal lymphoma (the slow growing kind)... Apparently it's really common in cats. He's going to be on prednisone 2x a day and chlorambucil (low dose) 3 x a week for a long time (up to two years). So far, it's been 2 months of treatment. After the first month and 1 week we got good blood results. We go back in another couple of weeks and have another blood draw. The good news is we don't have to take THB in and we give him the pills at home.  He doesn't hate them too much.  I've known some cats who HATE pills and the treatment would be awful for them.

In addition, THB seems to be tolerating the meds e.g., no throwing up and eating pretty well. His energy is about 85-95% of normal on most days. Today he seems pretty perky and I'd put him at 95%. (Last week we had a day when he was really draggy and I was worried, but he bounced back the next day.) I'm hoping that as the treatment goes on we'll have less low energy days. I can't complain though 'cause the really draggy days haven't been very frequent and I think (and hope) we are on positive trend for his energy and eating.

Monday, December 26, 2016

Thoughts as the girls get older...

            We are winding down for the day. Mom and dad are exhausted. How have you survived with 3?? 

Anyway hope you had a merry Christmas. 

            When the youngest hits 3 it gets easier. And we are still having a blast with them.

            Teenage years are significantly better than toddler years.  I have the best book recommendation. It's called "untangled" it's about girls growing up. I highly recommend it.

            Well about 2 more years until we all are three and over... which will coincide with the milestone I'm really looking forward to.... no more diapers!

            No more diapers was HUGE.  The good news for us was that T (#3) potty trained herself ‘cause she was all about being a big kid!

            I dislike nothing more than diapers and car seats. Ugh. 

            At some point they all strap themselves in the car seat.
            When I look back, I don’t even know how I got all 3 dressed, all their stuff for the day, and them into the car ….

            It is an act of god when we make it out of the house. 

            now I just say, we’re leaving in 5 minutes and you need a water bottle, snacks, and whatever you want to do to amuse yourself.
            It’s awesome
            (Been saying this probably since T (youngest) was probably 5… The youngest learns so much the older ones.)

            Oh yeah. For sure. 

            Back when T was in kinder, she had to remember her hw, her kinder bag all by herself ‘cause I couldn’t remember any of it… I did so much for N (oldest).
            T is very responsible.
            N is too now, but I still do more for her than the others…. just ‘cause she’s the oldest
            and her personality… she likes to work with me
            She just wrote an essay for To Kill a Mockingbird and she wanted to have nightly chats about it.  It was super fun and sweet.
            (She = N for To Kill a mockingbird)

            We do a ton for S (#1) as well. She does not like doing much by her self. 

L (#2) on the other hand enjoys her alone time. 
            Super fun. Can't wait. 

            K (#2) is so independent
            She likes her alone time too… and with her, she won’t let me help on her homework… AT ALL… I tell her if she gets As, I won’t intervene… If she ever falls lower than that, she gets to sit with me and work with me

            It totally motivates her.  This year, we had to intervene with Algebra 1….  She was getting a …. She pulled it up to a by the end of the trimester… She *almost* got an .

Saturday, March 19, 2016

Quarterly check in

The girls are good.  Three-a is going to middle school in the fall, twoK is in middle school right now (and struggling with math... not because she doesn't understand it, but because she doesn't like it). oNe is going to high school in the fall.  

When you get to high school, the focus is on getting in to college.  There are many people in our area who have a specific college in mind for their kid (or several very high ranking specific ones). I don't understand that.  Of course,  I want my kids to have a good life. But I think the college they choose should be up to them and they shouldn't feel pressured to go to a certain school.  (Of course, if they've heard their whole lives that they have to go to a certain school, or a certain kind of school to have a certain kind of life, they will "want" to go to those schools.) 

We know what goals oNe has and I have shared several schools with her that we know she can get in and that would be a good fit for her.  I'm sure she'll end up with some on the list and some different ones by the time the deadline gets here, but we're not going to stress about it.  We will keep talking and let her be in the driver's seat.  (I know there are some kids who need more guidance, but I would encourage them to figure out what they want instead of figuring out what I want for them, but that's just me.)

Recently, NYTimes Well Family blog had a post about college and it's very enlightening.  One tip that I learned is that we'll submit early (do it over the summer!). Other things from the article: We will make sure that for each kid, we'll know what they want from a school. We'll make sure we are doing some more community service... We are lacking in that department.  It's a good reminder for us.  We won't take every advanced course.  (oNe could have taken the SUPER-DUPER advanced math course in her freshman year, but she opted not to take it.  It is fine.  I know parents who wouldn't have allowed that transgression to occur.)

I love the spreadsheet tip and the "get a job" in the summer tip so that you can learn from diverse situations.  Each summer, I look for opportunities for the girls to be mother's helpers (as the girls are still young).  This summer, oNe will take the baby sitting course and get certified.  She already kind of has a job (taking care of animals); I wish twoK could take the course at age 12, but she can't until she is 13.  oNe going to college and twoK going to college will be two very different experiences.  Three-a will make it three different experiences. Oh, wow!  If you'd have told me 10 years ago that I'd be thinking about colleges now, I would have said, yea, whatevs.  Even 2 years ago, I wouldn't have believed you. It goes so fast!

Sunday, January 03, 2016

A good reminder

Happy New Year!

I'm still here.

Only 3-ish months this time.

I'm thinking resolutions, but I don't like to call them that.  Goals, that's a better word.

More strength training classes:
I ALWAYS get in one a week.  I usually get in two a week, and I sometimes get in 3 a week.  I'd like to more consistently do 3 a week.  If I can't get in 3 a week, I should do more core work at home (at the very least).

More flexibility work:
I'd like to do yoga, but I haven't found a class that works for my schedule and body.  I have some stretches I love so maybe I just need to work on my own and do the poses I think work well for me.

More fun:
I need to make a goal to not work between 5 pm and 10 pm (except if I'm teaching and that's only one night a week).  To hang with the girls... to play with them.

This Christmas, they got a jumprope, the kind that takes two people twirling... I like to jumprope, and it's fun to hang with them.  Try to do this with them once a week, if possible.  (Or stretch with twoK... she loves to stretch.)  (oNe and I take 2 dance classes together so we do get some quality fun time.)

With MWH, we need to try to do date nights / afternoons more often (and actually go out just the two of us).

Maybe I should try to blog at least monthly here?  I'm trying to blog a lot on the family picture blog.  I'm thinking about doing a good photo of the week... Maybe I should do photo of the month?

Food-wise, I'm always just working to find EASY, tasty, healthy, FAST recipes.   I have a food blog were I keep all the recipes we use.  We eat pretty darn well.  3 of us are vegans and 2 of us are vegetarians.  We try to eat as many (green) plants as possible!

Just FYI, January is going to be a crazy month with work--if I can't do it all in January, it's okay.  February is my birthday month so it's like a new year and I can start then!  (Wish me luck on all that we have to do in January.)


In other news, oNe is going to be 14 soon!!! OMG.  So far, she's the sweetest teen you've ever met.  She doesn't want to be a rotten teen.  She looks at friends who have become "teenagers" and she really hopes it doesn't happen to her.

Saturday, September 19, 2015


A text chat with a friend... She's pregnant and lots of questions.  I tried my best to remember.

            was oNe the pregnancy where you liked caffeine?
            I didn't like it or dislike it; I tried not to drink it
            ‘cause I’d had a miscarriage
            but then around week 15 or 16 I had some and MWH said, NEVER give it up again.


            He said I was so unlike myself.
            I couldn’t drink it at the end though ‘cause it gave me really bad heartburn with N
            I googled “can you die of heartburn.”
            you can’t….
            you just might want to

            It feels like you can

            You mentioned that during one of your pregnancies if it wasn't caffeinated you weren't interested.

            With twoK, she didn’t like caffeine
            at all.
            but I did drink a little tea… Chai teas.
            from Starbucks.
            she loved SOY.  She LOVED miso soup
            (Chai with soy)
            I really like lemony iced teas 
            (she loved soy steamers with vanilla)
            Haha! I bet!
            Three-a loved everything except citrus
            I still don’t like citrus
            I like lemons and limes now
            but I hate oranges/tangerines/etc.
            Did you like them before Three-a?
             yes. But now the thought of citrus can still send me over the edge. She likes citrus.
            Haha. That's so wild!
            I nearly lost it after eating a tangerine with her
            we called her Tangerine Pie in utero
            or SUUUUUURPRISE (that's what we called her a lot)

I start posts sometimes

And don't finish them.

(HA... I wrote this in March.)

Start of the school year

I just found this (written in August).

At the moment, girls are good. I am worried that 8th grade is going to be difficult for oNe emotionally 'cause she doesn't have friends in her classes. I'm hopeful that she has grown since 6th and it won't be as bad.

We will be agonizing over this most of the year, I fear.

twoK got into a very advanced level in ballet at a studio far from our house. She really wants to do it. She's starting middle school and has all of the emotional stuff going on there, and is working very hard in her dance. I love dance, but sometimes it can make you feel less than confident. She struggles with that. I hope this opportunity help her grow.

Three-a, she's super confident, has three really wonderful friends, they are all in the same fifth-grade class, and is very enthusiastic about almost everything. I guess that's not true, but everything she pursues, she pursues with A smile all the time, it seems. When she is sad or upset it is shocking.

(The good news is so far, 8th hasn't been that bad.)

(2 posts in one day... who'd have thought!?)

Another Aura and another post

Wow...  More 9 months this time...

I had an aura this morning.  It's been A LONG time.  The last time I wrote about one here was 2013... I think I had one since then and didn't blog it, but I can't remember for sure.  I think I was slightly dehydrated the last couple of days...

oNe's had one and now twoK's had 2.  For sure, after one of the aura's twoK had a headache afterwards.

Okay... to take ibuprofen or not, that is the question.

The bummer about the migraine is that it takes a couple days to get my head "all back" after one.  It just feels thick and confused.

Big sigh.

What else is new?  8th grade for oNe... She is doing well.  Still loving horses, trumpet, and tap.  She blogs now and her last post was about horses.  I hope I didn't give too much away about our identity.

twoK is in 6th grade.  That's middle school.  She's transitioning well.  She's also dancing a lot now with the professional school in our area.  Who knows what will happen.  I don't want her to be a professional dancer, but I want to give her the opportunity to dance as much as she can and become as good as she can. I'm super proud of her for wanting to dance. She's an introvert (I think) and it's hard for her, but she's working on it because she loves to dance.

Three-a...5th grade.  She's got 3 best friends in her class.  She's playing softball, taking a programming class, dancing, and trumpet. She's such an extrovert.

What else?  MWH and I are getting ready for our 17th anniversary! Really?  Am I doing the math right?  I just checked... Crazy! We met 19 years ago, so next year will be 20 years of hanging out together.  I am a very lucky girl.

I think I'll end here now.  I'll try to come back again soon... Yea, right. Believe it when you see it.

Oh, happy blogovesary to me.  It was last month.  It was my 10th anniversary here.  Oops... I should have done more.  Alas.  I

Thursday, December 11, 2014

Almost 6 months, again

I'm still here... Kind of. I think of this blog often. I have lots of things I want to write. I'd like to write about best and worst practices in parenting (not all mine). I'm trying to figure out how to do that. I am still teaching, but I'll be taking a break next semester and after I catch up with work (maybe by March???), I'll be able to think about writing here.

We're getting ready to enter a new era around here: adolescence. Little oNe will turn 13 soon. She was almost four when I started this blog.* I can't decide if I'll blog about adolescence or not. I'll probably blog about some things in general, but not in specific. I think I will learn a lot from my girls in the next few years; I have continually been learning from them, but I think the pace of my learning will accelerate as they get a little older.

Reminiscing...I have a friend who has 3 kids who are about the same spacing in age as our 3 are. Her oldest just turned 4 and her youngest is about 6 months.  It's crazy for her. I hadn't seen her in a while, and I commented on a FB post she made about how I remember those days and that it will get easier. She thanked me and said how hard it was when the all cry.  I remember.  This post was one of my lowest times. Maybe you can't really read and see how bad it was, but this blog does document for me so many memories.  I always wrote this blog for the family. I was lucky to meet a few kindred spirits along the way. Though I don't talk to them as often, I still count them as friends and am happy for the connection to them through blogging.

*Hey, I missed my blogoversy. Oops!  I guess I missed it in 2013, too.  It looks like I got it 2012.

Sunday, June 22, 2014

Hey look! Here I am!

Wow... 6 months. I remember when I used to blog multiple times a day on this blog. Alas, times change. I've been super busy with work and teaching so I'm barely blogging anywhere right now. So why am I here?  An aura occurred. Yesterday. Morning. It wasn't very long. Zig-zaggy C on the left side. I've been feeling like I might get one for a couple of weeks. I've been taking my Co-Q10, but also forgetting. I think, after lots of stress, I might need to up the Co-Q10.

What else? We survived our first year of Middle School with oNe. She's 12 now. After the first trimester, I wrote and never published, how oNe was doing super well in school, but how she wasn't enjoying it. That's putting it mildly. She despises middle school. I hope it's better in 7th grade, but we'll see. She is doing well, academically, I just hope she can enjoy school a little.

twoK is a completely different kid than last year. She is 10. She made a new bff, and in the process came out of her shell and made several new friends at school. She's much more confident. She likes the new house! She did her first sleep over last night. I'm kind of shocked at how much she's changed in the last year. She's still my snuggly girl, but she's growing up. Oh, yea, and she looks like she's entering adolescence. She's going to beat oNe most likely. I'm not ready....

Three-a is my 8-year-old softball player. She's still my happy-go-lucky (too fun loving sometimes) girl. She's doing well in school, but is very much the kid everyone likes and not the studious kid. She's loving Star Wars (we're finally showing it to the girls) (serious Sci-fi geeks take the introduction of the classics to their children very serious).

MWH is still most wonderful. We'll see if I come back sooner than 6 months. I hate shutting this blog down, but slowly....

Tuesday, December 31, 2013


Recntly, I called MWH at work. They had reset the phones at a central location and his ringer was set to maximum. When he answered, he told me the loud ring had scared the bejesus out of him. I was worried that it was bad to not have a bejesus, but he seems to be doing okay.

In fact, the next day, he went on a field trip with Three-a.  Oh, wow, it's been so long since I've written here that I've almost forgotten my code names for the girls. 

What's happening? Lots of stuff. I try to document it in (bad) photos on our other blog and manage to do that most days. I manage to blog on my food blog a few times a months, but I don't seem to write here at all. I can't believe that this blog is coming to an end, but the girls really aren't so little any more.

I could write about 2013, but that would take a while and it's already documented on the other blog. I'm happy to say, I don't have very many complaints about the year. 

(Okay, I could blog about the pain of the remodel, and some of the troubles at the new house, but it would just be #firstworld problems and I'd probably sound very whiny. Poor MWH got enough of me complaining in person, so I think I'll skip it. On the whole, I like the new house. I'll like it even more when EVERYTHING is done. Maybe this year.)

There's lots of things I could write about. oNe started middle school. We've had some adjustment issues. She's doing great academically, but she's stressed about the work. We live in a community where everyone is an overachiever, so it's easy for kids to get stressed. I may end up wanting to write about that so I'll keep this space for now.

twoK still has her moments, but she's definitely in a  better place than she was around her birthday/through the time we moved. I'm so thankful! 

Three-a is really funny. She's always been my happy kid, but now she's getting sarcastic and witty. 

Our 3 kitties are super fun and each have the personality of the girl who is their girl. It's pretty funny. 

I do like those 3 little, or not so little, girls!  

What else...the goals for next year will probably appear on the other blog. Maybe someday I'll write the tale of how we survived lice the first time (2 years ago) and the second time (this year). Or not. I did learn some handy tricks and feel I maybe should share them. Not today. We'll see if this post is see you later, or goodbye. Or, see you on the other blog and in FB. Some of you I met from this blog are now people who are my friends!

Monday, September 16, 2013

two years...

It's been two years since my Mom died.

Apparently it's also the birthday of of my good friend's (who died) husband. He's my friend in Facebook, and while I don't want to unfriend him, I don't often go see his FB page. He's happily remarried and it's so weird to see pictures of his (and my friend's) little girl. She looks so much like her mama.

So anyway, remembering my Mom and looking at those pictures pushed me over the edge. I thought I'd do okay today, but the double-whammy really got me. (I wonder if this happened last year. If it did, I didn't blog about it.) I don't remember what I did last year, but I do remember it sucked.

I remember when I was little, my Mom telling me when it was the anniversary of the day her mother died. I remember being sad that my Mom was sad, but I didn't know how to react 'cause I didn't ever meet her Mom; she died 15 years before I was born.

Yea, that was random.

Death is hard on the people who are left. The people who haven't yet come along, and the people who died, not so much. At least that's my take on it.

Okay... I'm ending this not-so-cheery post. Here's hoping my dance class will cheer me up tonight.