Grief is not depression.
There is no timetable.
There is nothing one can do to ease the pain.
I'm not supposed to grieve alone.
I am not supposed to be too independent during this time. I am supposed to let others help me.
The sudden, unexpected nature of my friend's death may make it a harder grieving process.
The fact that I didn't get to see my friend for dinner when I was supposed to because our nanny quit without notice bothers me a great deal. Since I have unfinished business my grief may take longer to resolve. It was good unfinished business with my friend, but I feel I had many things I wanted to do with her. All of the things we were supposed, and didn't get the opportunity to do are really weighing on me. (My friend was very understanding why I couldn't make dinner that night, and we planned to have dinner soon, but for some reason having not gotten to have dinner with her makes me feel like I failed her as a friend. Sigh.)
I learned the things listed above from this web site.
I realized yesterday, if my friend were alive, I wouldn't be thinking about her this much. This made me cry.
My supervisor thinks I should see a grief counselor. As is usually the case, I agree with him.
1 comment:
I am with your supervisor. Sometimes we need a little outside help to work through the ginormous amount of information our brains (and hearts!) need to process during stressful times. Let me know what you decide. I hurt for you friend. The dinner bit bothers me a great deal too. :(
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